Meaning
What is going on? Everything seems so pointless.
Consciously or unconsciously you need other people, things and actions to get through the day, and preferably in such a way that you have an added commodity that enriches you and others. You often only become aware of the question “what sense does life have?”, And more specifically “what sense does my life have?” When you get into trouble. The question comes up to yourself “is this all?”
Looking for the answer to a meaningful life
In your search for a meaningful life, we often look at how others interpret this or what they have to say about this. Below are some statements:
Enjoy life, and live in the here and now
Loving, helping and serving others
Life makes no sense
Life is a mystery, a transcendent meaning that I will not understand
Life is a struggle in which we have to play a role for a while
Life is what you make it yourself
These statements will all sound more or less familiar to you. However, research shows that people mainly get the meaning of their lives from relationships as the most important source. And more specifically from intimate relationships with their partner, in family circle, good friendships, followed by the importance of relationships with others in general. Second is the “successes in personal development or in achieving life goals in the field of work, study or hobby.
Four sources of meaning
Meaning can play a role in four different dimensions of human existence, namely on the physical level, material wealth, a house, safety, comfort, health and external beauty are important aspects. Second, on the psychic level or anything that belongs to a person’s personal development, character traits, psychological characteristics, and views of oneself. Thirdly, there is the social level and everything that has to do with a person’s position in society and functions in public life. For example, “belonging” is very important. And fourth and last, the transcendent, which includes, for example, faith and spiritual values, whereby it is assumed that not everything can be understood with the naked eye.
Researchers have also determined that a certain level of depth in itself can become an important meaningful category. It turns out that ‘self-acceptance’ or coming to terms with oneself and accepting the personal past and present, and ‘self-transcendence’ or transcending self-interests and placing themselves in a larger context, are independent sources from which people derive a lot of meaning (Wong & Fry, 1998).
What is this crisis good for?
You don’t feel well and the meaningful questions arise. We can rightly speak of a crisis. You probably know that you do not want to continue on the same road, but you do not yet know where you want to go and what to expect. It feels like standing still and at the same time you know in the back of your mind that running around probably doesn’t make sense. You keep on doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome, you know that by now, that’s driving you crazy, Einstein said. So you are literally and figuratively stopped. Fortunately, however annoying. To get out of this impasse, you often need someone else to fiddle with the material, someone who sympathizes with you, watches and thinks along with you. At least you don’t have to do this process alone.
I would be happy to do this with you, and if you would like to do this process with me, please call me at 06 – 45 66 64 21.
FAQ
How does the intake work?
In the first conversation we get to know each other, we discuss your expectations and I tell you to what extent your expectations correspond to what I have to offer, I explain what the therapy means, I answer any questions from you and then we will probably go into the first conversation already starts with your request for help.
I do not make diagnoses as stated in the DSM V. I would be happy to explain to you in the first interview why I do not find diagnosing helpful for you. Nor am I from the questionnaires. I prefer to look in the here and now what happens, what I experience and together with my knowledge and sober mind I will describe my vision and your request for help as concretely as possible. If we agree on this together, we can start immediately.
At the end of the first interview or start of the follow-up interview, this must result in a treatment agreement as laid down in the WBGO Act – Medical Treatment Agreement Act. This treatment agreement must be signed by both of us.
How many consultations are needed?
By working in the here and now and my personal and practical approach I can say that I get results quickly. My approach will allow you to say after the first two conversations whether and what I can do for you.
The average number of calls in my practice is 7. This is easy to measure by dividing the number of calls per year by the number of clients per year. This is a reliable average after 8 years of practice.
What does the therapy bring me?
To get a good impression of what the therapy can bring you and what you can expect below an extensive review of Charlotte, one of my clients.
Charlotte,
“My experience with therapy was based on telling about the past. I had the idea that I could properly place and analyze past events and did not feel the need to seek professional help. During the conversations with Wim, the emphasis was on recent, everyday experiences instead of a chronological analysis of what has been. In this way, fragments of the past would automatically appear, but only if they were relevant at the time. Not only did I learn to post what had happened, but I also saw more directly how it affected my daily life. I learned to look without judging and analyzing. During the conversations the emphasis was not on a diagnosis so that I became responsible instead of what I feel and experience is done to me or happened to me. This gave me confidence that I myself have the strength to initiate a change. I lived very much from my head and saw my body as something that had to adapt to what my head wanted.
The conversations and exercises with Wim, in combination with yoga and meditation, have ensured that I now also dare to trust my feeling and that my body is a valuable indicator instead of a difficult appendix to my head. I always wanted to change everything about myself. And had made an image for the outside world of myself as I would have liked to be. It took a lot of energy to keep this image high until one day it stopped. Now I know that it is quite possible to change, but that it is especially important to first become “friends” with the qualities that I do not like about myself, which should actually not be there. I notice that as soon as I no longer reject myself, change happens automatically, sometimes even without realizing it. Once this was started I only realized that releasing the compulsive kneading of the desired self-image has given me a basic sense of compassion that I can always return to. A foundation that is separate from work, performance, beliefs and appearance. As an extra gift, friendships started to deepen, and dealing with others no longer takes energy. I no longer have to worry about my answers and stories, but have found the peace to listen.”
Do you want to tackle your problem immediately?
Then let me call you back!
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