What is going on? Everything seems so pointless.
Consciously or unconsciously you need other people, things and actions to get through the day, and preferably in such a way that you have an added commodity that enriches you and others. You often only become aware of the question “what sense does life have?”, And more specifically “what sense does my life have?” When you get into trouble. The question comes up to yourself “is this all?”
Looking for the answer to a meaningful life
In your search for a meaningful life, we often look at how others interpret this or what they have to say about this. Below are some statements:
Enjoy life, and live in the here and now
Loving, helping and serving others
Life makes no sense
Life is a mystery, a transcendent meaning that I will not understand
Life is a struggle in which we have to play a role for a while
Life is what you make it yourself
These statements will all sound more or less familiar to you. However, research shows that people mainly get the meaning of their lives from relationships as the most important source. And more specifically from intimate relationships with their partner, in family circle, good friendships, followed by the importance of relationships with others in general. Second is the “successes in personal development or in achieving life goals in the field of work, study or hobby.
Four sources of meaning
Meaning can play a role in four different dimensions of human existence, namely on the physical level, material wealth, a house, safety, comfort, health and external beauty are important aspects. Second, on the psychic level or anything that belongs to a person’s personal development, character traits, psychological characteristics, and views of oneself. Thirdly, there is the social level and everything that has to do with a person’s position in society and functions in public life. For example, “belonging” is very important. And fourth and last, the transcendent, which includes, for example, faith and spiritual values, whereby it is assumed that not everything can be understood with the naked eye.
Researchers have also determined that a certain level of depth in itself can become an important meaningful category. It turns out that ‘self-acceptance’ or coming to terms with oneself and accepting the personal past and present, and ‘self-transcendence’ or transcending self-interests and placing themselves in a larger context, are independent sources from which people derive a lot of meaning (Wong & Fry, 1998).
What is this crisis good for?
You don’t feel well and the meaningful questions arise. We can rightly speak of a crisis. You probably know that you do not want to continue on the same road, but you do not yet know where you want to go and what to expect. It feels like standing still and at the same time you know in the back of your mind that running around probably doesn’t make sense. You keep on doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome, you know that by now, that’s driving you crazy, Einstein said. So you are literally and figuratively stopped. Fortunately, however annoying. To get out of this impasse, you often need someone else to fiddle with the material, someone who sympathizes with you, watches and thinks along with you. At least you don’t have to do this process alone.
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