Grief and loss

Do you need help with grief and loss? I help you get rid of these feelings.

You never felt that way before

You never felt that way before. And unfortunately it is not pleasant what you feel. you feel angry, sad, lonely and feelings of shame and guilt can also be forced upon you. You know it in the back of your mind. Letting go is the motto. You hear it from everyone and no matter how well it means, it doesn’t help you. In doing so, you are probably going to put yourself on the head that you are not able to pick up your life again which does not make it any better.

We have also forgotten it seems

Unconsciously and sometimes consciously, we are influenced by the world and the spirit of the times around us. Saying goodbye, mourning and loss are no longer poured on us. We really are a people of not complaining but wearing and showing strong emotions is not always appreciated, let alone the emotions associated with parting, loss and grief. In other words, we do not learn to deal with it. Not when it concerns ourselves, nor when it affects others. And that our life now largely takes place on social media where feeling happy and happy is the norm does not help. The tendency to withdraw is undeniably evident.

Towards a new balance

The loss has clearly unbalanced you and longed to rebalance. I can help you with that. I cannot make you forget the loss, but I can help you to lose what you have lost by living and living within yourself, making the loss richer. You are an experience richer no matter how painful. That’s part of it. As far as I am concerned, there is no release or something goes off, but something is added.


In the first conversation we get to know each other, we discuss your expectations and I tell you to what extent your expectations correspond to what I have to offer, I explain what the therapy means, I answer any questions from you and then we will probably go into the first conversation already starts with your request for help.

I do not make diagnoses as stated in the DSM V. I would be happy to explain to you in the first interview why I do not find diagnosing helpful for you. Nor am I from the questionnaires. I prefer to look in the here and now what happens, what I experience and together with my knowledge and sober mind I will describe my vision and your request for help as concretely as possible. If we agree on this together, we can start immediately.

At the end of the first interview or start of the follow-up interview, this must result in a treatment agreement as laid down in the WBGO Act – Medical Treatment Agreement Act. This treatment agreement must be signed by both of us.

By working in the here and now and my personal and practical approach I can say that I get results quickly. My approach will allow you to say after the first two conversations whether and what I can do for you.

The average number of calls in my practice is 7. This is easy to measure by dividing the number of calls per year by the number of clients per year. This is a reliable average after 8 years of practice.

To get a good impression of what the therapy can bring you and what you can expect below an extensive review of Charlotte, one of my clients.


“My experience with therapy was based on telling about the past. I had the idea that I could properly place and analyze past events and did not feel the need to seek professional help. During the conversations with Wim, the emphasis was on recent, everyday experiences instead of a chronological analysis of what has been. In this way, fragments of the past would automatically appear, but only if they were relevant at the time. Not only did I learn to post what had happened, but I also saw more directly how it affected my daily life. I learned to look without judging and analyzing. During the conversations the emphasis was not on a diagnosis so that I became responsible instead of what I feel and experience is done to me or happened to me. This gave me confidence that I myself have the strength to initiate a change. I lived very much from my head and saw my body as something that had to adapt to what my head wanted.

The conversations and exercises with Wim, in combination with yoga and meditation, have ensured that I now also dare to trust my feeling and that my body is a valuable indicator instead of a difficult appendix to my head. I always wanted to change everything about myself. And had made an image for the outside world of myself as I would have liked to be. It took a lot of energy to keep this image high until one day it stopped. Now I know that it is quite possible to change, but that it is especially important to first become “friends” with the qualities that I do not like about myself, which should actually not be there. I notice that as soon as I no longer reject myself, change happens automatically, sometimes even without realizing it. Once this was started I only realized that releasing the compulsive kneading of the desired self-image has given me a basic sense of compassion that I can always return to. A foundation that is separate from work, performance, beliefs and appearance. As an extra gift, friendships started to deepen, and dealing with others no longer takes energy. I no longer have to worry about my answers and stories, but have found the peace to listen.”


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